To say motherhood is hard is an understatement. Parenting is definitely one of those jobs that is all about on-the-job training. All of our children are unique and one thing that works for one may not work for the other.
My daughters, even my identical twin daughters, are so different. We all try our best to celebrate those differences and find ways to connect with them all uniquely. Yet, no matter how different they are, as girl moms there are five things every mom wants her daughter to know.
#1 Every Mom Wants Her Daughter To Love God And Love People
As a mom, almost everything we do is because of love. Whether that is running around town acting like a taxi service, waking up at 5 am so you can have quiet time with God, or serving in your kids’ ministry at church. We do it all because we love God and we love people.
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your souls and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.
Luke 10:27 (ESV)
We want this for our daughters. We want to them to love God and people is such a way that it shows in everything they do.
#2 Your Daughter Should Embrace Who She Is
We live in a world that constantly wants us to compare ourselves to everyone else. Then once we do, we need to find ways to be more like those other people. We are not pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough, and the list can go on and on. Yet, this is so far from the truth.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
my soul knows it very well.
Psalms 139:14 (ESV)
Our daughters need to know that they are enough. God created them uniquely wonderful. They were not created to be just like anyone else. She can only be who God created her to be and that is a wonderful thing.
#3 Every Mom Wants Her Daughter To Know She Is Worth Waiting For
We live in a culture that exposes our children to way too much way too fast and wants them to treat their bodies like objects. Then when you throw peer pressure into the mix with the ‘everyone is doing it’ mentality it is hard to protect them, and help them to maintain their innocence. Yet, our daughters need to know that their bodies are not objects and their innocence and virtue is worth holding on to.
How can a young person stay pure?
By obeying your word.
Psalms 119:9 (NLT)
This is definitely something that is not easy and something that I pray about often. Yet trusting God and helping our daughters to learn to trust God as well will help them to know that her innocence and virtue is worth holding onto.
#4 You Want Your Daughter To Know Perfection Is Not Attainable
No matter how hard we try or strive to be, we are not perfect and neither are our children. We all fall short. Making sure our daughters understand that they are not perfect and will fail at times is so important. They should not strive for perfection, but to be who God created them to be and to do their best, a pursuit of excellence.
Whatever you do, do well.
Ecclesiastes 9:10 (NLT)
In life it is not about achieving perfection, but about persistence, perseverance, and doing your very best.
#5 Every Mom Wants Her Daughter To Never Stop Learning
There will always be areas in our lives that we can grow in, get better at, and learn more about. We never reach a point in our lives where we know everything and neither will our daughters.
The wise also will hear and increase in learning, and the person of understanding will acquire skill and attain to sound counsel.
Proverbs 1:5 (AMPC)
Our daughters need to know that throughout life they should never stop striving to learn more and grow more.
As moms, we want nothing but the best for our daughters. Raising strong, independent, God-fearing young women in today’s society may not be easy, but we can do it. With these five things we all want our daughters to know we are well on our way.
I’d love to know what is one other thing every mom wants her daughter to know in the comments!
I have two daughters, and your list is spot on!! If I had to add another one, I think it would be that I want my daughters to know that they are always loved unconditionally by their dad and I. No matter what they do or where life takes them, we will love them and pray for them!
Perfection is not attainable. <— Yes! This is something I've struggled with my entire life, and I'm really hoping to teach my daughter that is wonderful and perfect just as she is 🙂 Awesome post!
Really good post Ayanna. They are all so true, especially #5. Thank you so much for sharing!
This is such a sweet post. Absolutely the truth! I love this post. 🙂
Thanks so much, Cas. ?
This is adorable! I don’t have a daughter yet, but my biggest desire for my son is that he would love God and love people!
Thanks so much, Kelsie, and these are definitely things worth teaching to all little boys as well. ?
Great reminders. Thank you! I’m not sure which one would be my top one, as I love them all. They’re great values for us all to live by. 🙂
I couldn’t pick a top one either, Connie. Trying to teach them all is so worth the effort. ?
I love your post. I agree with all of them!!!! I want my daughter to know all of that and more.
Thanks so much, Lisa, and I’m glad we are on the same page. ?
this is beautiful and so perfect! You nailed the very most important things! love love love this!
I’m definitely teaching #4 by example 😉
Me too, Val. Giving ourselves a little more grace and stop striving for perfection ourselves is the best example. ?
SO important that moms and daughters relate to each other like this
agree! But as a mom of both a boy (5) and girl (18 months), I would have to say I want these exact same things for my son. 🙂
Such beautiful things that you want for your daughters and I want the same for mine! Especially the loving God and people. Everything else just flows out of that 🙂
Yes it does, Amanda! Loving and having a real relationship with God allows us to love ourselves and others in a real and powerful way as well. ?
Thank you, please give me advice for my teen daughter of 14 for good attitude, good friends, good education and good future. IOLA.
I can only imagine how difficult those teenage years can be, Iola. My only advice would be to continue to be the best example for her with your own attitude, friends, and how you work towards your own goals. Our children are always watching us, even when we think they are not. And always be there to listen when she does want to talk and ask questions whenever you can. Our kids want to know we care, we listen, and we are there for them, regardless of how old they are. ?
I want my daughter to know that although perfection is unobtainable she is perfect just the way she is!
This is beautiful. All of them are SO true.
I think all women need to hear these things!
I totally want my daughter to know that in the future.. but also my potential son(s) <3
Great Tips! I hope as my daughter gets older she will see that I tried my hardest on a daily basis to show her all of these things!
I absolutely want my daughter to know all of these things. I need her to know she is loved and deserves everything life has to offer, and that with God, she is unstoppable. Love this ?
Yes!!! These are spot on and so important to remember as we raise Christian women!
I absolutely LOVED all of your points! I was just sitting here, earnestly nodding my head in agreement as I read. I have two girls that are still little, and I always enjoy reading your wisdom as a Mom of older girls. Thanks Ayanna!
Yes, yes, yes to all of these! 🙂
Ayanna, I love all of this so much!!! You are clearly such a sweet mama who’s focused on teaching her daughter about faith, education, real life….and I’m with you on every single one of these! And as always, I love how you back up everything with Scripture!
This is an absolutely beautiful post! Your daughter is so lucky to have you as her mama. All of these things are SO incredibly important and I hope my daughter learns them as well. Especially to love who she is!
These are great pearls of wisdom, Ayanna. Thanks for sharing!
Ayanna, I so love the part about embracing who she is. I’ve learned that to help my daughter love herself I must first love myself. This has been a bit of a challenge because I’ve never been taught to do that. Not that I didn’t like myself in any way, but I just wasn’t taught to be purposeful about thinking of myself on a higher level. This is a beautiful list. thank you for sharing.
Thanks for sharing! I’ve been really focusing in on my relationship with my daughter lately, so this is timely!
Awesome, Karissa. I’ve been doing the same thing with my daughters. I’m trying to make sure I remember that a part of parenting involves me nurturing my relationship with them and the example I set for them. ?
This is amazing! I hope to implement all of this as my daughter grows older. Thank you for sharing!
Thanks, Sami! This is definitely something we all hope to implement to our daughters. ?
Such a beautiful list, spot on everything I DO want my daughter to know. You are so loved baby girl!!
Thanks, Michelle! Loving ourselves and our baby girls that best way we can is so important. ?
Love this! I pray everyday that my children love God as much as we do.
These are all true and this is a perfect reminder to make sure that we mamas are modeling them for our girls to see!
Very sweet list, got me tearing up!
This is so good! I do want my daughter to know all of these things. I also want my daughter to know that she can do anything she sets her mind to! Don’t be held back by things she “should or should not” be doing!
loooooove this!! “Embrace who she is” SO PERFECT & so important!