{You are in for a treat with a little ‘Tea with E’. Where my hubby, Eric, stops into guest post and give us a little peek into the male perspective.}
There are many arenas and aspects of life in general that as their dad I would love my daughters to have knowledge of so they can be wise in their decision-making. Equipped with a diverse set of experiences, self-confidence, and healthy relationships should position them to live out their purpose realizing their dreams.
Having a sense of security, real beauty, and authentic marriage in the future will require faith, fresh perspective, and courage to withstand distractions. They will need to drown out the noises of negativity and illusion images to realize their desires. To do that there are three things every dad wants his daughter to know.
The foremost thing I want them to know is that they are daughters of The King. They need to know that our God is Sovereign; He reigns!.
Yours, O Lord, is the greatness, the power, the glory, the victory, and the majesty. Everything in the heavens and on earth is yours,
1 Chronicles 29:11a (NLT)
Having a relationship with God, who created the heavens and the earth and everything in it, is paramount. All the things their heart’s desire and need will come from Him. Maintaining such a perspective and position in Christ will provide the blessed assurance that provision for whatever situation or circumstance is readily available to them. They can always find protection, peace, and victory through The King.
I want my daughters to also know how beautiful they are inside and out. They need to know that they were fearfully and wonderfully made, a unique creation in their mother’s womb that was set apart for victory.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Psalm 139:13-14 (ESV)
They have been equipped with everything they need to accomplish their goals and realize their dreams according to their purpose.
May he equip you with all you need for doing his will.
Hebrews 13:21 (NLT)
I also want them to know when it comes to dating and finding a future husband, men can see their physical appearance and it is important, but not as much as they think. An authentic man of God cannot stay solely focused on their physical appearance, he desires much more than that.
There has to be an initial level of attraction for both parties, but if it stays there than that relationship will remain shallow. Life is challenging, God’s design for marriage requires strong communication, partnership, and sacrificial love.
Reflect on a call for husbands.
For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.
Ephesians 5:25 (NLT)
It would be pretty difficult to die for someone just because they look good. I’m certain that sounds silly, but isn’t it true that you also have to connect spiritually, emotionally, or have an admiration for their character.
My attraction to their mother was not just because she is physically beautiful, but she is ambitious, intelligent, thoughtful, creative, a team player, and leader. A key scripture that is helpful not only in evaluating a future mate, but relationships, in general, is Matthew 7:16.
You can identify them by their fruit, that is, by the way they act. can you pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?
Matthew 7:16 (NLT)
You can know the heart of a person by the fruit of their words and actions. Our daughters cannot let a man sweet talk or ‘run game’ on them without evaluating the fruit. It will certainly be revealed, so they need to keep their eyes and ears open.
Collectively, these are the three core things I want my daughters to know. Everything else will work itself out because they will have the right attitude, knowledge, and confidence to navigate life accordingly. We’ll be there to support and encourage them along the way, but we are far from perfect and will make mistakes. Therefore, the importance of directing our daughters toward a perfect God.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on these things and others you are equipping your daughters with!
Great words of wisdom. Thanks for sharing.
This is so beautiful! Your daughers are lucky to have a wonderful father to teach them these lessons! My father is definitely one of the reasons I am confident about what is on the inside!
Thanks Vicki! Fatherhood is definitely a blessing and I hope to instill as much confidence in my daughters as I can. E
Wonderfully written and if only more fathers would step up to the plate like this when raising their children. So many just walk away and figure not my responsibility.
This is such a beautiful piece. I just showed hubby and he totally agrees
first of all I love that your husband has a guest spot! I think the beautiful inside and out is so important. I keep trying to remind my student and this summer, campers, of this!
Love all these verses!!
Lauren
Aw I love these three things! A daddy’s love is so important for growing young girls. Thanks for sharing!
This is so true! You’re daughter are lucky to have a dad that will encourage and support them in their lives. As a mom of two girls, these are values I also try to instill them.
God bless you – this is how father’s should be!
This is precious & an attitude so needed today. Can you run for President! ? Seriously though, keep up the wonderful job, Dad, in letting God be your guide!
Oh my goodness was this ever beautiful! I love how you tied scripture into everything. Thank you for sharing such a sweet piece!
These are such sweet and amazing things for your daughters to learn from you!! I wish there were more dads like you! Thank you for sharing!
This is so beautiful. There is nothing more special than the bond between parents and their children. Teaching your daughter(s) these three things that you mentioned is vital to their growth and development spiritually and mentally.
I wish I had a daddy like you when I was growing up – I didn’t 🙁
You are right on point with this! I love- “You can know the heart of a person by the fruit of their words and actions.” So so true!
These pictures are SO great. Such a great picture of your husband’s love for your daughter. And I loooove that verse from Hebrews 13. Give me the will to do His will!!!
Love EVERYTHING about this! So nice to hear from your husband and hear a Biblical perspective on this topic.
I am always interested to know a father’s perspective. This perspective, also on the base on religious text is very illuminating. Thank you for sharing.
Great post by Eric. This is a powerful thought as it relates to Ephesians 5:25, “It would be pretty difficult to die for someone just because they look good. I’m certain that sounds silly, but isn’t it true that you also have to connect spiritually, emotionally, or have an admiration for their character.”
Thanks Karen! That revelation hit me too. Healthy relationships require depth, especially marriages as Jesus’ love for His church is the standard. God bless you! E
I love this! It is so important for our daughters to truly understand their true beauty, and their many gifts. Thank you so much for sharing this, and many blessing to you!
Glad you enjoyed the post Amanda! God bless you! E
I love this so much! You and your daughters are so blessed to have a man who is a godly influence and pours life into your babies! That is everything!
-Logan
logancan.com
From a woman who had a father who exemplified this, THANK YOU for sharing! My dad was the primary source of my self-confidence when I was young and that has transferred to God in my adult years. His influence set the foundation for my future and I am so thankful.
I love this! As a mom of a 16 year old daughter, this hits home! I mentioned some of this to my daughter the other day. I told her I don’t comment on her looks very often because she is so much more than that. I’m so glad she gets it!
That’s awesome Becki! I appreciate your comments. Glad to hear your daughter gets it, that’s my hope. May God continue to bless you! E