3 Keys To Being A More Confident Mom

Ok, let me just put it out there. Motherhood is HARD!!!! Yes, it is a blessing, a gift, and something no mama I know would trade for anything in the world. Yet, it is still hard. Each season brings its own set of challenges along with ups and downs. While also bringing into question whether being a confident mom is even really a thing.

Whether you are a mother for the first time or the third time. Whether you are a girl mom, a boy mom, or a mom of both boys and girls. We all seem to be on this journey without an instruction manual or a map.

As a mom of three girls, I may not face some of the challenges that one of my best friends does as a mom of three boys. Regardless of our different challenges and struggles, we all still have them.

We all struggle with and question so much as moms. Am I doing the right things? Am I doing enough? Or am I doing too much? How do I love them, myself, and my husband in the right ways? Or am I even loving them enough? The list can go on and on. These questions and these struggles over time affect how we look at ourselves as women and moms. Causing us to lose confidence at times.

Confidence both in ourselves and as moms. Making it so important that in order for us to be the best moms we can for our kids, we have to be confident moms. Not perfect or flawless, but centered, strong, confident, and the best versions of ourselves. To do that, remember these three keys to becoming a more confident mom.

Remember A Confident Mom Holds On

Motherhood is like a roller coaster. Some of the twists and turns you see coming and can prepare for. Like when a roller coaster is on that first steady incline to approach its first and often the fastest descent. You know it’s coming and you see the top. So, you embrace the climb, while also anticipation the drop.

Then there is the time after the drop where it feels like you are flying. You are going through twists and turns that you do not see coming or have time to anticipate. However, through them all you hold on. You hold on during the slow climb and hold on during the twists and turns.

As a confident mom, you have to do the same. You have to hold on. During the times you see coming and those you do not. Because God created you to be the mom your kids needed. Hold on to God and the confidence that you are not in this alone. You may not have and instruction manual, but God has and will continue to equip you and surround you with those you need in the journey of motherhood.

So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord.
Remember the great reward it brings you! Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. 
Hebrews 10:35-36 (NLT)

Not easy no, but possible yes. I know for my entering into the tween and preteen space has definitely been a roller coaster. I see puberty and all that ahead. So, I am trying my best to prepare and hold on during this ‘slow climb’, because I know once it peeks I am in for a ride.

I have three daughters, with my twins being only two and a half years younger than my oldest. So I know there are some definite twists and turns ahead, but I know that if I hold on, trust God, and rely on my other mom friends to help me along the way I can do this. And so can you! Confidently let’s hold on to God and each other.

Remember Course Correction Is Often Needed

As much as we wish we could make all the right decisions and do all the right things, we cannot. Especially in motherhood. Remember you are in this thing without a clear map. So there will be times when you make the wrong turn or make the wrong decision.

Yet, even then you often have another choice. You can choose to redirect, and course correct. Using such experiences as a lesson learned and equipping you to make a better decision in the future. Thereby, further increasing your confidence as a mom. Putting your focus not on trying to perfect or without missteps. But as a confident woman trusting that each step taken and each lesson learned is growing you into the mom God created you to be.

Just like our kids grow, we grow as moms. We are stretched, strengthened, and empowered with each lesson learned, each turn we hold through, and each course correction we have to make.

Also, Remember A Confident Mom Knows the Seasons Change

Not much lasts forever. We go through different season in life and in motherhood. As our kids grow through different phases. Whether that is from infancy to toddler or tween to teen. Then even adolescence to adults.

Each season is only for a limited amount of time.

There’s an opportune time to do things,
a right time for everything on the earth
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (MSG)

So as a confident mom, remembering that you only have to hold on for just so long. The time frames are not always given, but the guarantee that things will change is. Making it is not about if, but when. So, confidently hold on knowing that even in the hard times, this too shall pass.

Being a confident mom is not about having all the right answers, making all the right decisions, or doing all of the right things. It is all about standing firm, holding on, being willing to change course, and knowing that this one moment will not last forever.

While trusting that in the midst of it all God is right there with you. Equipping, empowering, and surrounding you with those you need to confidently rock this mom life journey in your own unique way!

I’d love to know what helps you to be a more confident mom in the comments!