Discover the Benefits Of Marriage To Transform It

Have you ever realized that you had something of value in your possession that you were not aware of? Upon discovering this, did you have an a-ha moment or realize you were not investing how you should because of this lack of knowledge? I can recall several instances in my life where this has occurred.

Like with Amazon. When my wife, Ayanna, first signed up for Amazon Prime is was just for the 2-day shipping. Although I think she invests too much because there are way too many packages being delivered to our house on a weekly basis, that is a conversation for another day.

After she signed up, we discovered that not only am I a member because she is my wife, but also we have access to all the Prime videos, movies, and music are included too. What a tremendous value and benefits not just for my wife, but for me and our daughters.

Oftentimes, the discovery of benefits can be transformational unlocking greater significance and understanding. Especially when discovering the benefits of marriage.

In a covenant marriage, we often overlook all the benefits available to us. I think much of it has to do with how the world tries to define marriage and if we are not careful, we can be investing resources into things we already have access to. The world tries to paint a picture that a successful marriage is 50/50 where equal contributions are required.

Logic should question this as putting forth half of an effort in anything often doesn’t yield the desired result. There is a need to recalibrate our thoughts and consider what is actually best given so many competing priorities for our time and energy. I’d like to share a couple of benefits that can transform your marriage.

Benefit Your Marriage By Transforming Your Thoughts

We need to recalibrate our thought life to seek God in our decision-making. The demands and subsequent pressures in our lives often distract us from obtaining what is best. We often settle when we could experience God’s best.

So instead of looking to the world for answers and advice most of the time, we should look to the Word. God already knew we would have a tendency to do this, so He explicitly states, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world…” So we need to be wise in how we think and allow the Holy Spirit to guide us into His will.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world,
but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.
Then you will learn to know God’s will for you,
which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:2 (NLT)

In my own marriage, Ayanna and I had strong differences of opinion when it came to her becoming a SAHM. I didn’t see value in her leaving her career as a pharmacist including the loss of income. My view was that money was the key to realize my (not our) dreams and make problems go away. Yet, I learned that I could not hold this worldly perspective if I wanted to experience God’s good, pleasing, and perfect will.

By exercising my faith, we became better stewards or managers of having a single income. Through this one decision, our marriage has been transformed and become a benefit of marriage for us. The abundance of blessings are indescribable with respect to the health of our marriage, serving in ministry, having healthy faith-filled kids, a thriving career, this blog platform to encourage you and so much more!

You may be wondering, was it really a single decision, and the answer is yes. Once I decided to pray that His will be done and not my will, my ears were opened to hear the needs of my wife.

Transforming Your Faith To Benefit Your Marriage

One of the things we often forget in a covenant marriage is that God is in it too. How often do we pray or seek God in the decisions we need to make for our marriage and family? Do we only rely on our spouse? In situations where we don’t agree, what do we do? When you and your husband can’t seem to agree, seek the Lord to gain understanding. It is the power of prayer that allows you to realize the benefits you already had and simply overlooked.

And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example,
we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit
prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words.
Romans 8:26 (NLT)

No worries, if you don’t have the greatest confidence in praying. Continuously seeking Him in spirit and in truth will mature your prayer life. God in His infinite wisdom knew that we might struggle with prayer so He intercedes for us.

I want to encourage you to transform your marriage through your thoughts and prayers. Do not quench the Spirit or leave God out of your covenant marriage because you would just be relinquishing benefits.

The world today is so demanding and has advice for everything under the sun. Remember that Christ came to overcome the world, so be an overcomer in your marriage. Don’t conform to the patterns of this world, renew your mind and thought life! Be a marriage transformer!

I’d love to hear your reflections on the power of your thoughts and prayer in marriage!