Feelings and emotions are powerful. As women, through the course of one day our emotions can go on a rollercoaster ride. Then if you happen to be a wife and/or a mom, you also have to deal with the emotions of others all day as well. Yet regardless of how many emotions we experience or have to help manage, we have to always remember that feelings are not facts.
I can remember one of the first times I heard this statement and I was not too happy about it. At the time my husband and I seemed to be getting into different disagreements about everything and anything. It was early in our marriage. We were both young and still growing as individuals and trying to figure out how to navigate this married life.
I would get so caught up in my feelings and the emotions I was having, that I was no longer even trying to listen or understand. Then one day I heard someone say feelings are not facts and everything started to make sense a little more.
I began to realize that I was often not even upset with my husband or the situation that we were dealing with. Yet other things and the emotions that they were causing was spilling over into my marriage.
It is not always an easy truth to embrace. Yet remembering feelings are not facts is necessary for us to be faith-filled, graceful, successful, and empowered women, wives, and moms.
Feelings Are Like The Seasons, They Change
This is the first truth to remember. One minute you can feel one way and the next minute you can feel another. These constant shifts can cause you to overlook the facts or truth right in front of you. Whether those are things you know to be true about yourself, those you are in relationship with, and even God.
This is when you need to take a pause and take time to look past yourself. Give yourself the time and grace to not just navigate your feelings, but also give them time to change.
Seeking Help With Your Feelings Is Okay
This is another truth to remember. Seeking another point of view or perspective is not just helpful, but is often necessary.
Those who trust their own insight are foolish,
but anyone who walks in wisdom is safe.
Proverbs 28:26 (NLT)
We are often limited by our own perspectives and experiences. And these things often affect how we feel about different things and if we are even able to see past our feelings.
Getting help in the form of prayer, wise counsel from friends, and even getting professional help when dealing with different issues is something that I encourage you to do. Because I have.
By seeking God in prayer, you can get clarity on some of the blind spots you may have and the facts that you are overlooking. While seeking wise counsel from friends or others, you can both express your feelings while getting a new perspective on what the facts in your situation really are. Then by seeking professional help, whether through counseling, coaching, or mentoring, you can gain the tools needed to navigate both your feelings and still look at the facts.
As a mom, getting help with navigating my feelings has been a game-changer for me. With three girls, emotions run high in my house. So if I do not take the time, almost daily, to remember my feelings are not facts it can be hard to parent my girls with love and intention.
This is also true as wives. In marriage, it is easy to let our feelings and emotions get the best of us. So it is important to remember when dealing with your husband, especially when emotions are running high, looking past your feelings is important.
Navigating life as a woman, wife, and mom is not always easy. However, it can be done with intention, faith, grace, and success when we keep in mind that feelings are not facts.
I’d love to know what you do when your feelings get the best of you in the comments!
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