In the busyness of life, it is so easy to go through the day with blinders on. A simple ‘thank you’ and acts of gratitude are often lost. We can get so caught up in the things we have to do or the things we have done, that we miss the things that those around us do. Often missing what is in front of you that could transform your marriage.
Especially when it comes to our husbands. Our husbands do so much both in and outside of our homes for our families and us. Showing gratitude towards your husband can go a long way. It does not only build up your husband, gratitude can transform your marriage.
It is so easy to look past the things our husbands do, to focus on the things they do not. Like forgetting to take the trash on Friday morning knowing that trash day is the same day every week. Or for your birthday, instead of planning something on his own, he just asks you what you want or wants to do.
However, it is more important to focus on the things that our husbands do and not their shortcomings.
Gratitude And Love Go Hand In Hand
Like love, gratitude is an action. Showing appreciation and kindness for the things your husband does is a great way to show love.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (ESV)
Being grateful shows all these things. Love and kindness are at the center of having an attitude of gratitude.
No, your husband may not remember to take the trash out every time, but aren’t you grateful when he does. Whether you had to remind him or not. It takes one more thing off your to-do list.
Your husband may not always plan these elaborate birthday celebrations for you, but aren’t you grateful he wants to give you exactly what you want for your birthday. Your husband, like mine, may not be the greatest at surprises. But he is great at asking me what I want or need, and trying his best to give me that. Those are things we all should be thankful for.
Our husbands are great in so many ways. Showing them gratitude for the things they do and do well is so important. You will be amazed at how much being grateful can not only transform your marriage, but encourage your husband.
If your husband knows you are thankful and appreciative for the things he does, it pushes him to do more. A marriage filled with true love, appreciation, and each person giving 100% is truly a marriage transformed.
Gratitude And Respect Go Hand In Hand
Finding ways to build up and support your husband is also an important part of having a healthy and strong marriage. Having an attitude of gratitude not only does this, but it also gives our husbands the one thing they all need. RESPECT.
So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Ephesians 5:33 (NLT)
Respect goes a long way in a marriage. It is something that we all want. But for your husband, it is something that he needs. Showing gratitude and being thankful for the things he does is key to showing him the respect he needs.
Giving your husband the respect he needs and showing the gratitude he often seeks will do wonders for your marriage. There are few things better for your marriage than to have a husband that knows he is loved, respected, and supported.
It is often said that it is the little things that matter the most. Showing gratitude may seem like one of those little things, but it does wonders. Not just for you and your attitude. But showing gratitude can transform your marriage. It helps you to show love and respect for your husband every marriage needs.
If you were to ask any man, love and respect are no small things.
I’d love to know ways you show or could better show gratitude
towards your husband in the comments!
A grateful hearts transforms every part of our lives! I find that when I am thankful, I see my husband in a more positive light. It truly is all about perspective.
Yes, Marilyn! I often see the same thing and it is amazing what a little perspective change can do for you and your marriage.
Hey Ayanna,
I agree completely! My wife and I have been married for almost six years & the biggest key to keeping our love flowing and our hearts happy is definitely gratitude. Just showing someone that you love & appreciate them does wonders for their soul & yours.
Many men seem to function better when they feel respected, and it’s something that’s lacking in many marriages. I think it’s a good idea to practice gratitude daily for as many things as possible! There’s always something to be grateful for.
I love this! My husband does more if I show appreciation even to little things.
I totally agree with this post! Showing your husband you appreciate him is so healthy for a marriage.
Love this. It’s so easy to get caught up in the negative things, but that only diminishes our marriages! Great post!
You couldn’t be more right. I’m very grateful to have gratitude in my marriage.
These are wonderful thoughts and tips! Thank you!
I’m so glad they were helpful, Julie.
Showing gratitude to your significant other is so important. If we just push and push and don’t stop to say thanks for the little things, things go south quick.
So true. I needed this reminder!
My husband does so much and I definitely do not tell him or thank him enough. I truly appreciate the wisdom you continually provide on here Ayanna. Keep allowing God to use you to lead so many on this Christian journey.
Yes, I totally agree!! I always show gratitude to my hubby, he works so hard and he just needs to hear and see that I appreciate everything he does. It’s what men need and women were created to give. Many blessings on your marriage!
I absolutely love this post and couldn’t agree more! Gratitude is so important in marriage.
Neither of us is perfect, but we should be grateful for each other, “being grateful” is a powerful thing and as a team, we are always better and stronger ♥
I think this was put in front of me today for a reason. I’ve been so wrapped up in my things and I feel like I’ve been so short with my husband for all the things he doesn’t do. Such a good reminder.
Great article! You hit the nail on the head when you said gratitude and respect go hand in hand. It’s hard to have one without the other. I am working on showing gratitude to my husband by appreciating things that I take for granted. It is difficult to thank him for mundane things like going to work and taking the trash out, but he is so appreciative when I take the time to let him know how thankful I am for those simple things.
When you give and show gratitude it brings much more into our lives. We begin to put other people first and help more
I’m not married anymore, but I 1000% agree that respect and gratitude goes a long way in a marriage. One thing I learned from being a wife is that marriage is something you have to get up every day ready to make better on a daily basis. We get so into our own routines that we forget our spouse needs to loved and appreciated. Great post!
Great post and great reminder! My husband travels internationally for his job pretty frequently, and every time he leaves I realize how much he was doing that I was taking for granted. Sometimes I get frustrated because I feel like he’s not helping with the kids as much, but then when he’s gone I start to see all of the areas where he was doing so much (taking out the trash, doing the dishes, feeding the dogs, cleaning, etc.) It’s definitely an eye opener. Completely agree about gratitude and respect going hand in hand. Thank you for sharing! <3
I love this!! Such a great reminder of how much work (in a good sense) it takes to have (and keep) a thriving marriage. Beautifully written!
This was a great reminder to stop appreciate my husband when things become so routine. I can definitely show more gratitude by letting him know how much I appreciate how hard he works. Instead of being annoyed that he gets home in the middle of dinner time, I can let him know that I am so proud of him for working hard to support our happy family.Thanks for sharing this!
Fabulous post! This is something my hubby and I work on, but with our busy season upon us we can forget. Living and working together can be a challenge sometimes!! =)
Cultivating a heart of gratitude is such an important part of marriage. That coupled, with love and respect, makes a difference. Every day may not always be easy but it’s the small victories in the little things that help keep you going.
I agree that the little things matter most. They add up to show gratitude and respect.
Such an insightful, heartfelt and true article. It’s so easy to forget all of the things each other does with everything else going on. It’s so important to keep that gratitude going. Kind of like at work. If I didn’t feel appreciated then I doubt I would stay there long. That’s why we make an effort that just becomes a way of life to thank and appreciate one another at our home.
Keep up the great writing!
I absolutely appreciate the sentiment behind this post – it’s so lovely. I’ve also found that my husband and I have become closer the more I appreciate him. I find the more I appreciate him he actually appreciates me more too. So lovely!