In marriage, we are often looking for ways to grow and make our marriages better. Whether that is improving your communication, spending quality time, or making sure to keep the spark alive. Yet, one of the most important things as a wife you have to be intentional about is growing spiritually with your husband.
Having a strong marriage that lasts takes more than just you and your husband. It takes God being at the center. The center of your life, your husband’s life, and your marriage.
This is a lot easier said than done. There is so much competition for our attention and time. Both for you as a woman and a wife. Along with all the countless relationship and marriage advice that you receive. Trying to navigate what to do and not to do with what to believe and what not to believe is not always easy.
Yet, one of the things that I have found that will help you as a wife and your marriage to navigate this journey of life and marriage is having spiritual intimacy in your marriage. Having a relationship with God will help you both to navigate the ups and downs of marriage while strengthening you along the way.
To grow spiritually with your husband it will take work and intentionality, but it does not have to be hard. Here are 5 simple things you can start doing today to help you grow spiritually as a couple.
You Spiritual Growth As A Couple Starts With Your Faith Growing
It is often easy to start with focusing on how you can help your husband or things you both can do to improve your marriage. However, the most important first step to take is with yourself.
Your relationship with God should be a personal one. You can walk beside your husband as you both grow, but you both have to make sure you are taking the individual steps you need with God and to move your relationship with God forward.
A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.
Proverbs 14:1 (NLT)
Your husband may be the servant-leader in your home, but that does not mean he is the only one invested in making sure the foundation and the life you are building are strong. You both need to be working on living God-centered lives so you have a God-centered marriage.
Your own spiritual growth can also inspire and motivate your husband in his faith. My husband, Eric, and I, have not always been at the same place in our relationship with God at the same time.
There have been times when one of us has been feeling disconnected from God or that our faith is just not growing. It is during those times that when the other person is praying, studying God’s Word, and serving inspires us to draw closer to God.
Your growing spiritually does not just affect your spiritual growth with your husband, but it provides a great example for others. Whether that is your own kids, friends, family, or other wives. We are called to be salt and light in the world.
The only way we can do that, and it starts in our own homes and marriages, is by making sure we are personally drawing closer to the source of that light, God.
Grow Your Faith By Committing To Praying Together
I often say that a paying wife is a powerful wife. This is something that I wholeheartedly believe because I have experienced its power in my own life and the lives of wives I know. Yet, no matter how powerful a praying wife is, there is just something next level about a couple that prays together.
A husband and wife that comes together to submit their lives, thoughts, and desires to God in prayer grow spiritually and it helps nurture their marriage.
Your spiritual growth as a couple is dependent on you both seeking God and one of the simplest and powerful ways for you to do that is with prayer.
For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.
Matthew 18:20 (NKJV)
Not only does God meet you both in a very intimate way when you pray. You both also meet each other intimately.
There is such beauty and intimacy that you can experience when you take the time to pray together. Sharing your heart and listening to your husband share his heart grows you both spiritually.
The how, when, and where you do this is totally up to you both. Whether it is in the morning before you both go off for the day. Or at the end of the day before you go to bed.
My husband and I have varying morning routines, so the mornings are not the best time for us to pray together if we actually want to be committed to doing it consistently. So we pray together at night. Even when we are not going to bed at the same time or at home together. We take the time to pay together for a few minutes, even if on the phone.
Always remember that your marriage and your relationship with God are as unique as you both are. This is a journey that you and your husband are on together. One of the simplest ways to ensure you continue to travel this journey together while growing spiritually is praying together.
Doing A Devotional Together Helps You To Grow Spiritually With Your Husband
Prayer and seeking God for yourself and with your husband is great, and essential for you to grow spiritually as a couple. But sometimes you need a little help to guide and direct you. Whether that is with prayer or what you should be seeking God for.
One way to help you both and that can be fun is to do a devotional together.
Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts.
Colossians 3:16 (NLT)
Devotionals are short and focused teachings focused on either different Bible verses or topics. There are some that you do daily or weekly. The length and options are endless. There are so many devotionals focused on marriage and ways for you to grow in your marriage.
Making this a great way to grow spiritually with your husband because although the topics are diverse the teachings are centered on God’s Word.
Over the years Eric and I have done numerous devotionals together and individually. They have challenged, encouraged, and helped us grow. While also providing a way for us to connect and have conversations we may not have had otherwise.
If you want some help finding a devotional or want to get started to see what devotionals are out there I would start with YouVersion Bible app. You can find so many devotionals and samples of devotionals to get you started.
One thing I love about the YouVersion Bible app is that you can try as many devotionals as you want. I have found many devotional samples that I loved and then I went to order the actual book. I have also discovered Christian authors that I have grown to love and purchased books of theirs as well.
Regardless of what devotional you choose or where you get it from, the most important thing is that you and your husband do one together. Helping you to connect more and grow spiritually. Win-Win!
Being In Community With Other Like Minded Couples Helps You Grow
You both grow spiritually individually and as a couple should not just be dependent on what you both can do, but a community effort. Life is all about relationships. Your relationship with God and with others.
It is important for you to be mindful of and intentional about the people you surround yourself with and the relationships you have. You want to have friends and couples around you that are like-minded and share your spiritual beliefs.
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
Proverbs 27:17 (NLT)
Friends like this can encourage, motivate, and pray for you and your husband. All things you need when you are seeking to grow spiritually with your husband because, like marriage, it will not be easy.
You will face challenges, opposition, and competing priorities. Making it hard at times for you to stay committed to growing spiritually both individually and with your spouse. Therefore having a community around you to help you through the hard times and celebrate with you during the good times is a must.
Being Flexible Is Key To Growing Spiritually With Your Husband
Life rarely ever goes according to plan. No matter how intentional or committed you are to something things and life will get in the way. The same will happen with your desire to grow your faith and gain a greater spiritual intimacy with your husband.
The time you once devoted to your own quiet time with God and studying the Bible will often be cut into in some way. The time you once were spending with your husband praying somehow starts to be missed for one reason or another. That devotional you started with your husband just is not as great as you thought it would be. Or it is hard finding the time to connect with your husband about it.
The list can go on and on. Yet, regardless of the obstacles or the opposition you face, remaining open and flexible is key. Your faith journey is going to be filled with many highs and lows, just like marriage and life. So being committed to the goal of growing spiritually and not necessarily any methods are most important.
Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.
Ephesians 4:2 (NLT)
Life and love can be messy. Therefore it is so important that as you grow as a woman, wife, and in your marriage give yourself and your husband grace. Grace to move at different speeds. Be open to trying new things. And the grace to seek and ask for the help you need.
Your spiritual walk both individually and as a couple will be more of a marathon than a sprint. One that you have to be committed to and intentional about. Making it necessary for you to have simple and practical advice like this to help you along the way.
I’d love to know how you and your husband stay connected spiritually in the comments!
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