5 Ways to Love Your Husband Better Every Day

As a wife and a mom, it can often feel like your days are filled with endless doing and giving. You have a list of to-dos, not just for yourself, but also for your family. Often not filled with want to’s, but have to’s. Then you are expected to do it all with a smile on your face and look good while doing it. Then if that is not enough, you are expected to give, do, and love your husband a little bit more. Really? HOW?

Although true and not easy, it can be done. Finding ways to love your husband better every day is not about big gestures or life-changing revelations. It is simply about making intentional choices every day that show you love, care, and value your husband.

Some you do with him, some for him, and others you do without him even knowing. Yet, all five of these simple tips, will not only help you to love your husband better. They will also help to strengthen and nurture your marriage as a whole.

1) Start Your Day With An Upload

By upload, I simply mean at the beginning of your day ask your husband “What is on his agenda for the day?” As wives and moms, we can often get so caught up in our list of to-dos that we can often forget that our husbands’ have their own lists. You may also be the only person your husband can truly be completely transparent with about all he has going on and the things he needs to do.

By starting your day with an upload from your husband, you are both loving your husband better and showing genuine interest in his day.

You can even take this upload one step further and ask him is there anything he needs or would like for you to do for him that day. This right here takes his ‘Feel Loved Meter’ up a few notches. Our husbands are often fully aware of how busy we are. So by asking not only about their day, but also how we help them in some way, we are blessing and loving them in a wonderful way.

2) End Your Day With A Download

Since life never really goes according to our plan and we often experience many unexpected surprises, another great way to love your husband better every day is to end your day with a download. Simply take a few minutes at the end of the day to just go over what happened in his day.

My husband travels a lot for work, so our uploads and downloads often cannot happen in person. Yet, just because we may not be physically together, I do not let that stop me from finding ways to love my husband and neither should you. Use technology to your advantage.

By ending your day with a download from your husband you can learn the highs and lows of his day. While also helping you be even more intentional about the #5 way to love your husband better. So do not stop here, keep going.

3) Send A Text Not Asking For Anything

Now I know you may think you do this all the time, but do you really? How often do you actually just say or share something encouraging, kind, or loving with your husband during the day without seeking anything in return?

I can be honest that I did not until recently. I would always start a text message conversation just checking in or saying something sweet. Yet it was often really just a prelude to a request or a need. You know what I mean.

The conversation could go something like:

• Me: Hey babe, what are you up to?
• Eric: Nothing, why what’s up?
• Me: Nothing, just checking in.
• Me: (10 minutes later) Oh, before I forget can you….

I know I am not alone. Yet, although we should always feel free to share with our husband our needs and wants, while also seeking the help we need. We have to make sure we are also showing love, care, and concern daily without looking for anything in return.

Our husbands want and need those little words of encouragement and affirmation as much as we do. So taking the time daily to send a simple text to your husband to just show you love, support, see, or are supportive of him and the things he does for your family can be huge. It shows that you both love and appreciate him.

4) Pray With Your Husband

This is one of the ways that is both seen and felt by you and your husband. Sharing your heart with each other in prayer is a beautiful expression of love and unity. It also allows you both to refocus and bring God back to the center of your marriage.

With the busyness and the demands of life, it is so easy to get off track and lose focus. So by taking time each day to pray with your husband, it always you both to love each other well and keep God at the center of it all. Whether you choose to pray first thing in the morning or at the end of the day before you go to bed, it does not really matter.

And when two or three of you are together because of me,
you can be sure that I’ll be there.
Matthew 18:20 (MSG)

God will meet you wherever and whenever. You just be there together!

5) Pray For Your Husband Daily

This is one of those unseen ways that is often the most impactful. Prayer is one of the most powerful tools we have as wives.

There may be things you see in your husband or feel about your marriage that you do not feel comfortable praying for with your husband. Or there may be things you are struggling with as a wife. By taking the time to pray for your husband and marriage you are loving your husband in a powerful way. You are acknowledging that on your own you cannot do and be it all.

Over the years I have become a morning person. It was not something that happened by accident, it was a choice. I needed time to myself daily. It was also the only time I could find where I could be consistent and minimize all other distractions. This quiet time in the morning is also my favorite time to pray for my husband.

With God at the center of your life and your marriage, you can love your husband in beautiful and powerful ways. This quiet time with God can also show you other ways that you can love your husband better in ways that are unique to him and your marriage.

There is no one size fits all way to love your husband. However with these 5 simple and practical ways:

You will not only love your husband well, but you will discover other ways to show love and build a stronger marriage.

I’d love to know what you do to show your husband love every day in the comments!