Every day you are faced with a seemingly unending list of to-dos and people in your life that need you. People that need you to either be present with them or to do something for them. Prioritization is key for every woman, wife, and mom. As a wife, if you were to look at your life and schedule, how well do you prioritize your marriage?
You may be in a season where you could happily answer this question because you are living your best wife life right now. Yet, for many wives, myself included, if we are to be honest, we could be doing better. Your marriage is important to you, yes. However, with the many hats you wear and all the things on your plate, the focus on your marriage can sometimes get lost.
At times like this, it is important for you to take a pause, take a step back to look at all the things going on in your life, and get your priorities back in the right order. To help, here are 4 simple ways you can start to prioritize your marriage today.
1. Start With Saying Your Marriage is a Priority
Your words have power. Therefore as a wife, you have to make sure you are using them wisely with your husband and in your marriage. So if you want your marriage to be a priority, start by stating that it is.
Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.
Proverbs 18:21 (MSG)
By simply saying that you want to prioritize your marriage better, you are speaking life. Life into you as a wife and give yourself the encouragement to take more steps to make marriage prioritization a reality. While also speaking life into your marriage, showing you are no longer okay with your marriage being on the back burner in your life.
2. Talk to Your Husband
After, first simply saying you want to adjust your priorities, then talk to your husband about it. You are in this marriage together. While there are things that you can do as a wife to prioritize your marriage. In order for you to truly have a healthy marriage, which is a priority for both you and your husband you need to talk about it.
The conversation can start with asking your husband a simple question like How could I love you better today?
If you have never asked your husband a question like this before, it may catch him off guard at first. However, it will also more than likely do two other things as well. First, it may prompt him to ask why you are asking him that.
This can lead you to share how you desire to make your marriage more of a priority in the midst of all the things you both have going on in your lives. The second thing is that it may prompt your husband to share things with you that will allow you to show him love and that you are making him a priority. Win-win!
Communication in marriage is key.
3. Put Together Time on Your Calendar
If you are anything like me, you would be lost without your calendar. Whether it is digital or within a beautifully crafted paper planner, having your appointments, to-dos, and calendar written down is a must if you are to get anything actually accomplished. Therefore, in order to make your marriage a priority you have to make sure it is on your calendar as well.
Things like date nights and getaways are a must. But it should not stop there. So is making sure you have downtime to just talk and connect. Because it can be easy in the midst of the busyness of life for you and your husband to miss opportunities to simply connect. When you both are so focused on getting things done, you can lose focus on each other.
Oh! Teach us to live well! Teach us to live wisely and well!
Psalm 90:12 (MSG)
God wants you to live and use your time wisely. Making it important that you are honest with how you spend your time and the things on your calendar. If your schedule is overwhelmed with everything, but your marriage. How can it be a priority?
Time is one of the few things in life that we cannot get back. Once our time is spent it is gone. So as a wife who desires to have a strong marriage, you have to make sure you are intentionally putting in the time to nurture it.
4. Get Help
As much as you may want to or believe that you can make your marriage a priority all on your own, you cannot and you should not desire to. Just like talking to your husband is a must, there are so many other people and tools that can help you as well.
While I did not say it explicitly, as a woman of faith you have to remember that turning to God for help in any and every situation is key. God can help you to see where in your life you have let your marriage become less of a priority. While also directing you to where to get help from.
There are numerous books out there that can help you both grow as a wife and grow your marriage. You could also join groups of other wives who also desire to prioritize their marriage. Whether this is in your community, at your local church, and even online like here at Beyond Committed.
Then if you are truly ready to go deeper and commit to not just prioritizing your marriage, but also becoming the best wife you can be. There are wife coaches, like myself, who are committed to helping you do just that.
Your marriage takes work, yes, but it is also a gift. So making sure you are putting in the work to experience all the blessings is a must. And these 4 simple ways can help you to see your marriage grow and become stronger in no time.
I’d love to know what is one simple way you prioritize your marriage in the comments below!
Good Morning and welcome back. I am a very supportive wife and I encourage my husband when he seems lost in his feelings and doubts. Sometimes I just leave him alone and ask God to help him in whatever is bothering him.
Hey Wanda and thank you for the sweet welcome back! Being an encourager is such a blessing to your marriage. I often have to leave my husband alone too and seek God to reveal what and how I can help.