Having a healthy and happy marriage takes work. It takes two people, you and your husband, working together every day to make it work. The longer I am married, the more I feel I am getting a really good handle on this marriage thing. I know myself and my husband pretty well and trust that we are both committed to making our marriage a success.
Yet despite how well we may know our husbands and ourselves, trusting in ourselves to make our marriages a success is not enough. We have to trust God more. It may not always be easy but there are three reasons why you need to trust God with your marriage.
1) Trust God With Your Marriage Because We Are Only Human
As much as we may strive for perfection at times, we are all far from perfect. We all have limits and we all make mistakes. We are going to do things, both intentionally and unintentionally, that may hurt our spouses. In big ways and in little ways, and those things may slowly chip away at the strength of our marriages. Yet knowing that God is love and committing to trusting God with our marriages allows us to get through and overcome such things.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5 (NLT)
To have the kind of love we need to have for our husbands, for them to overlook our faults and for them to overlook ours, we have to keep love and God at the center.
2) We Can’t Control Anyone But Ourselves
Regardless of how much influence we have over our husbands and in our marriages, we do not have control. We can only control our own actions and ourselves. So committing our ways and trusting God with all the things outside of our control is important.
Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you.
Psalms 37:5 (NLT)
We have to trust and know that God wants nothing but the best for both you and your marriage. So by trusting Him with your marriage, you are opening up the door for Him to do only what He can do through you, your husband, and your marriage.
3) Trust God With Your Marriage Because God Loved You and Your Husband First
As much as I love my husband and have loved him for the last 15 years, I was not the first person to love him. Even before his parents knew and loved him, God knew him and loved him first.
We love because He first loved us.
1 John 4:19 (ESV)
Knowing that God loved both your husband and you first, and now that you two are one; why wouldn’t He want anything but the best for your marriage? Why wouldn’t He cover and keep your marriage in a way that only He can? Why wouldn’t He care for and grow the marriage in which you care for and nurture?
Although it may not always be easy, trusting God with your marriage is one of the best decisions you could ever make for your marriage. Wanting the best for our marriages means although we are only human and will make mistakes, trusting the One who knew us and loved us first is key.
I’d love to hear about a way you have learned to trust God with your marriage
or in your life in the comments!
So much wisdom!! With God at the center all things will come together in His timing and will.
Yes, Ruth!! That is so true and so comforting!?
There should be three people in your marriage you, husband and Heavenly Father. Start and end each day offering a prayer with your husband unto our Heavenly Father.
Oh,, this is such a good post and something I’ve been struggling with. Thank you for the reminder to pray and put in the worl.
A wonderful reminder. I pray for my husband constantly and for our marriage to thrive. The fact that God loved him before anyone else speaks volumes. The fact that God loves him more than I do or his mother or family – even more awesome.
Such a lovely message! I’m getting married next year, so it was really comforting to read this well-timed reminder. 🙂
Cheers, Sarah Camille
Congratulations, Sarah, on your impending nuptials. Getting married is so exciting and the fact that you are also looking at ways to ensure you have a strong marriage is AWESOME!!!
I’m not married yet but I know that I’ll have to have faith in order to make it through at times. Can’t wait to start that journey.
What a beautiful post. Thanks so much for sharing. I’ve been married for over a year now and it absolutely takes work, but it’s worth it!
Thanks so much, Emma! And congrats on celebrating your first year of marriage. ?
I love this passage from Corinthians! It’s beautiful.
With Christ the center of our family and marriage, I know that we are fully in the greatest hands to lead our life down the path He has set out of us.
Yes, Stephanie!!! It is so freeing and comforting when you know that despite the storms of life that you are covered and will come out on the other side better and stronger. ?
Yes, teaching this to young couples is so needful. And we both know that Holy Spirit is the holy glue in a marriage 🙂 Blessings!
Yes it is, Alicia!! This is something I am so grateful that we learned early in our marriage, but only because we had an older couple pour into our marriage. We all need other Godly couples to walk with us along the marriage journey.?
What are you thoughts on a marriage where one person is significantly more religious than the other? I think that would be an interesting post topic.
That is good, Harmony, I will definitely have to work on that one. That actually was the case for my husband and I early in our marriage. Watching him seek and grow in his relationship with Christ definitely encouraged me to want the same thing.
In a world that resists waiting or trusting, it’s hard to trust God with our marriage. We want to take action! But this is a sweet reminder that God is always at work and has our best in mind.
That is so true, Alexandra. God is definitely always at work, both for us and through us. ??