5 Simple Ways To Reconnect With Your Husband

In the midst of the busyness of life, it can be easy to put our relationships on autopilot, especially in marriage. With life, careers, and kids, your marriage can be on your list just not at the top. With time this can cause you to become distant from your husband and needing ways to reconnect with your husband.

I know for me, with my husband, Eric’s, busy career and work travel staying connected is not easy. With my focus at home and keeping up with our three very active daughters, we can be like ships passing. Not because we want to be or do not want to be connected, life just happens and our focus goes to other things.

I know I am not alone, so that is why as wives we have to be more intentional in our marriages. Making sure that we are both building connections or reconnecting with our husbands. So here are 5 simple ways that I use to reconnect with my husband and I know you can as well starting today.

1) Taking 5 Minutes Daily To Just Talk Helps You To Connect

Now I know 5 minutes is not a lot of time, but every little bit counts and helps. Often you may find yourself talking to your husband throughout the day, but it often with a purpose to get something. You are trying to get something handled or addressed for you, your kids, or your home. Not just talking to connect.

So taking 5 minutes during the day to just talk, not to handle the business of your lives or check something off your list, can be helpful in helping you to reconnect with your husband. Allowing you both to get insight into your day without needing the other to do anything.

This can be easier said than done because we have so much on our to-do lists. So we often want to take all opportunities we have to get things done. Yet we have to make sure we are prioritizing our relationship with our husbands and not just getting things done on our lists as well. Making sure that you stay connected with your husband with at least 5 minutes daily talks is a great way to do that.

2) Praying Together Helps You Reconnect With Your Husband

Now prayer is always a given not just in marriage, but in life. Prayer is a powerful way for us to stay grounded and connected with God and our husbands. There is just something so beautiful about taking the time to pray with your husband, daily if possible.

And when two or three of you are together because of me,
you can be sure that I’ll be there.
Matthew 18:20 (MSG)

God being at the center of our lives and our marriages is so important. It helps you to be strong with and for each other. Hearing the intimate things that you both bring to God in the midst of prayer can bond you both in so many ways.

Praying together also allows you to gain insight into how you can pray for your husband privately. A praying wife may be powerful, but I truly believe that a praying couple is unstoppable.

3) Make Date Night A Routine & Put On Calendar

I do not know about you, but it often feels like my calendar is busting at the seams. Our time is often spread thin, so that is why making sure to make time for our husbands is routine. Making date night routine and getting them on your calendar early and often is key. Even if that date is at home. 

Just like we schedule appointments and place all our kids’ activities on our calendars to make sure we do not miss anything. We should do the same with planning dates with our husbands so we can stay connected.

4) Plan A Getaway To Help You Reconnect With Your Husband

Now, this definitely takes date night to the next level and can be so impactful with helping you to reconnect in a bigger way. Whether it is just for an overnight trip that is just a car ride away, a few days away that requires a plane ride, or all things in between. A change in scenery and routine allows you to connect in new ways. Even if you cannot go on that getaway now, planning it gives you something to look forward to.

Eric and I plan one big vacation for just us every two years. We drop the kids off at their grandparents and we get away for a few days. The uninterrupted time with just my hubby does wonders for our connection and for me as a wife.

When you are able to have a getaway, you also get to take off the other hats we wear as a mom, boss, and all the other hats you wear and just be a woman and a wife. Now out of all my many hats, my wife hat is one of my favorites and the one I get to wear the least all by itself.

5) Surround Yourself With Other Happily Married Couples

Now take note that I said ‘happily married’ couples. This is because that old saying birds of a feather flock together rings true for your marriage too. You want to have a circle of people around you that also want to stay connected to their husbands and to build strong marriages.

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up,
just as you are doing.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 (ESV)

You and your husband may be united as one, but you should not be an island. We all need a village around us to help encourage, draw us to each other, and cover us in prayer.

Also, take note that I said ‘happily’ not ‘perfect’. This is key because you need people around you that are open, honest, and real. No person or marriage is perfect. We all go through things, have ups and downs, and are not always connected. So having those people around you that can encourage and love you with truth is key.

Staying connected to your husband is not always easy, but can be done if you are intentional and put in the work. Marriage is a blessing that requires work. There are times and different seasons in your marriage that you may become disconnected, but you do not have to stay that way.

With these 5 simple ways to reconnect with your husband, you will not only become more connected with your husband, but you will strengthen your marriage as well.

I’d love to know how you stay connected with your husband
in the midst of the busyness of life in the comments!