One of the best investments you can make is in your marriage. Our marriages are one of the most important relationships we have. To have healthy and growing marriages, and relationships in general, we have to invest in them. So putting in the time and the work necessary is so important.
Although marriage does often take a lot of work, it does not always have to. It is often the little things that can make the biggest difference. So here are five simple ways you can invest in your marriage today.
1) Pray Together
This is one of those things that should go without saying. Yet we often need little reminders like this. Prayer is powerful and even more so when together. To me, there are not too many things more beautiful or binding in marriage than a husband and wife praying together.
Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.
Matthew 18:19-20 (ESV)
I remember when my husband, Eric, and I first started praying together. It was a little awkward for me. First, because I was not used to praying out loud. Then secondly, because I felt Eric prayed “better” than me. To me, his prayers seemed so deep and mine so simple. Yet, over time I have come to appreciate our differences and look forward to praying with him before we go to bed. Also realizing that no one’ prayers is better than the others.
Your prayers do not have to be long, complicated, or at a particular time. Just taking the time to speak to God about what is in your heart with your husband, and vice versa, is what is most important. This allows you to not only invest in your marriage. It also allows you to hear what lies in your husband’s heart and know what to pray for your husband about as well.
2) Schedule Dates Helps You To Invest In YOur Marriage
So I recommend having fun, because there is nothing better for people in this world than to eat, drink, and enjoy life. That way they will experience some happiness along with all the hard work God gives them under the sun.
Ecclesiastes 8:15 (NLT)
Quality time together is a must. You need time together away from the busyness of life, work, and your kids.
It is important to schedule dates because of the busyness of life, work, and your kids. By scheduling them, you are both investing in your marriage and making your marriage a priority. While also showing your kids how much you value your marriage.
Scheduling dates will also give you something to look forward to. Whether it is a date night, lunch date, or a weekend getaway. Your options are endless and worth the time and investment.
3) Share Devotionals Together
Growing in your faith is so important, so what better way than to do so with your husband.
The unfolding of your words gives light; it imparts understanding to the simple.
Psalms 119:130 (ESV)
This also does not have to be complicated, intensive, or done in a particular way. Simply sharing what you are learning about God and His Word is what’s important.
Eric and I have done this many different ways over the years. At times, like now, we have read the same daily devotional and then later talked about what we read and our thoughts. While at other times, we would just share our thoughts about the devotional we are doing on our own. Whether you do a devotional together or on your own, taking the time to grow in your faith and sharing that with your husband is a great investment in your marriage.
4) Text Each Other Meaningful Texts Daily
Words are powerful, even when given electronically. Now let me be clear. I am not talking about texting your husband asking for something. Like ” Hey, can you pick up some milk on your way home?” These types of texts are often necessary and have meaning, but not necessarily marriage building if you know what I mean.
Texting your husband something meaningful, loving, or encouraging can go a long way. It can be something as simple as “Just want you to know I love you! “. Or “Just checking in to see how your day is going”.
If you know your husband has a lot going on at work or a big meeting coming up, something like “I just wanted you to know how proud I am of you” or “Babe got this!”. These simple things can be so life-giving to your husband and your marriage.
5) Invest In Your Marriage By Celebrating Your Husband
I do not know about you, but one of my goals as a wife is to always be my husband’s biggest cheerleader. In a world that is always looking to tear down or criticize, it is important that we encourage and celebrate our husbands. Especially their accomplishments and when they achieve goals.
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 (ESV)
Whether he got a promotion at work, finally cleaned out the garage, or put your kids to bed so you did not have to. These are things to celebrate and can be done in simple ways. Like a text, hug and kiss, or making his favorite treat. Your options for this are also endless and should speak to your husband’s heart. Celebrating your husband is a great way to love on your husband and invest in your marriage.
With the busyness of life, we have to make sure we are keeping our marriages a priority and investing in them. With these five simple ways to invest in your marriages, we can do just that on a daily basis.
I’d love to hear of a simple way you invest in your marriage in the comments!
This is gold! I have to confess I am doing 2 out of these 5 useful tips. I love the one about praying together – we have never practiced that, I could never have thought of how strong connection it can create. Mainly because we are from different religions, but I feel like this is such a good thing to try anyway! Thank you 🙂
I really feel like summer is the time couples need reminding of this the most. Between vacations, getting ready for school, and house projects, sometimes it feels like there is nothing left for just the two of us. After bedtime my husband and I have begun to sit outside on the porch just to reconnect and watch the sun go down each night. I look forward to it, its such a small gesture but something I need every single day.
Marriage takes time and energy and these are some great ways to place importance on it!
It is hard to find time to spend together once your married. We try to do a date night a week – but it doesn’t always happen.
Im not married yet, but I enjoy taking not of things like this to in a way prepare me for when that day comes!
That’s awesome, Kayvona. I wish I had did more to prepare myself for marriage because I probably would have avoided some of the bumps we had early on.
Such great ideas. They make sense for any relationship. Making time for each other is very important.
This is a lovely post. Making time for each other, keeping communications open and celebrating one another is especially important.
These are such great ideas! Love praying together 🙂
These are such great tips! My husband and I are big on texting throughout the day and encouraging one another. ♡ MALLORIE
Scheduled dates are so important! Sometimes you just have to go out of your way to make time for each other.
I think date time is so important to make time for just the two of you. We always text each other throughout the day!
This is a great list! Planning on date nights is a must when both spouses are busy. Making time for each other is very important.
Yes ma’am, Sharon. If it does not get on our calendar, then it most likely will not get done.
I totally agree! We try to do all of these things and it makes such a difference in our relationship! Great post!
I think that is such an awesome idea to text each other meaningful texts or bible verses. What a sweet way to encourage each other!
I love sharing Bible verses with my husband as well, Cas.
Praying together and scheduling dates is huge! My husband and I said we need one date night a month or we should at least try to aim for that.
We have got to get back to scheduled time together. Since our regular babysitter is on summer break, we haven’t gotten back to consistent date nights – consistent time together. Always love hearing your insightful words on marriage Ayanna.
Love these tips! Love the meaningful texts idea 🙂
I often need these reminders. I can easily let my marriage take a back seat. I want to be more intentional.
These are great ideas! It can be so easy to forget to make time for each other!
What a cute photo of you two on date night 🙂 My husband and I are pretty good at having meaningful phone calls and texts throughout the day – just like we did when we first met. It may seem small but it’s always the little things that keep the love going. Now, we just need to find more time for date nights, which is hard with our son’s baseball schedule!
Celebrating is such an important way to boost your marriage! It makes a huge difference.
I love this! We try so hard to do date nights once a week. Sometimes they’re planned and sometimes they’re on a whim but it’s so important to have the time together.
When my husband is home we always make sure to set aside at least TWICE a month for date nights! I think it’s SO important!
Yes! Such great ideas. Scheduling dates and together time is so important!
Great tips…. Praying together is of course awesome…and taking time for dates is so important and can be hard to do with littles who demand attention.
Dates are a big one for us! Celebrating Ben fills him up as well! I agree on all of the above!
I’m a big fan of scheduling dates. For my boyfriends birthday last year I put together a Year of Dates and it’s been so much fun for both of us. All of the activities I planned were things we’ve never done before so it’s been so great for our relationship to try new things and visit new places together.
These are great tips! Love that it is Christ centered. Praying out loud is a challenge for me, but I am working on it! Thanks for sharing!!
I love the idea about celebrating your husband. It’s something that I definitely need to work on and tends to go overlooked a bit when times get hard and busy.
We have a weekly date night at home. I really enjoy having the time together and it is relaxing too!
The whole schedule dates is critical we are trying to do that right now.
So good! I always love reading your posts 🙂
Being my husband’s cheerleader is one of the hardest ones for me. I have no idea why, but I’ve always struggled in that area. This is a good reminder for me this morning. Thank you!