I absolutely love my family and being a mom. Spending time with my family is one of my favorite things to do. Whether it is playing soccer in the yard with my girls or just hanging out at home having pajama day, family time is very important to me. But when it comes to priorities, a date night with my hubby will always win out over a family night.
When you have kids, finding time to have a date night can be half the battle. Between kids’ activities, work schedules, and church commitments, it’s hard to find alone time. When you throw in having to get a babysitter, it can seem almost impossible. So that’s why as wives we have to make it a priority. There are so many things in our lives that compete for our time, but our husbands should not be one of them.
This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
Genesis 2:24 (NLT)
Marriage is the most intimate human relationship we have. Our husbands should never feel like they are second behind our kids. Don’t get me wrong, there are times when our kids’ immediate needs have to be met. However, I’m talking about making our marriages a priority in our lives and our schedules. No person, children included, should be able to come between you.
Date night benefits the entire family
Date nights allow us to take a break from the everyday busyness and just focus on each other. Not only are date nights important for our marriages, but it’s also important for our parenting.
Our kids need to see us as a couple and not just their parents. My girls look forward to our date nights as much as we do. I have some true girly girls, so seeing mommy get dressed up and put on make-up is a treat for them.
As a woman, I like to get dressed up just for my husband as well. Most of the time, except for church on Sunday, our husbands see us in our everyday ‘mommy gear’, t-shirts, sweats, jeans, and a ponytail. Which is fine, but from time to time we need to remind them of the women we are under our ‘mommy gear’.
I love the look on Eric’s face of both desire and pride when I get all dressed up. You ladies know exactly what I’m talking about and that look alone is worth taking the time to make date night a priority.
The health and well-being of our families is closely tied to the health and well-being of our marriages. By taking better care of your marriage you are taking better care of your family. One of the best ways to take care of your marriage is to make it a priority, and a great way to do that is to make date night a priority over family night.
So when is your next date night and what are your plans?
I’d love to hear about it in the comments!
This is so simple and yet so many couples don’t do this and then suffer! We have a 15 month at home and are really trying to have consistent us time. It makes us better spouses and parents. Great reminder!
Loved this! It’s so true that’s date nights are just as beneficial (ultimately) for the kids as they are for the parents.
I love this!! We don’t have any kids yet, but this is something we have discussed on several occasions. No matter how many kids we have in the future our marriage is a priority! Thanks for sharing!! <3
I love this post. Spending time as a couple and having date nights is so important for the health of a marriage. You look fabulous there btw.
So true, Tanvi, and thanks! ?
Right On!!
Thanks, Lisa!
Great post! This year has been our first year of date nights . Thankfully we have a niece who started attending college in our city and agreed to watch the kids for little to nothing as a Christmas present for her uncle. Much needed points you bring out here.
That’s awesome Brittany! Finding childcare can seem like an uphill battle, but is so worth it. I love it when I get childcare as a present. For my birthday this year, my MIL asked me if I wanted a gift card or have her come watch my girls for the weekend. So you already know what I chose and I’d make that came choice every time. Enjoy your date nights!
I’m nowhere near marriage but I couldn’t agree more. Marriage is your first ministry and the foundation for your home has to be strong. Kudos to you all for keeping the romance and enjoying one another.
That is so true CJ. It took us a while to get to this place in our marriage, but it has definitely been worth the journey. Realizing that your marriage is not just about you makes all the difference. It’s awesome that although you’re not married yet you can see that now. Be Blessed!
I completely agree! Spending time, just the two of you, is SO valuable!
Yes ma’am, Lizzy! I am such a better mom after a night our quality time with my hubby.
Our church encourages date night and we have a date night every Friday. Sometimes it is just a walk together and sometime a movie out. Doesn’t have to be expensive, just being together.
That’s awesome and so true! Having good quality time is what’s most important. I love when we go to just get ice cream and talk.
I love this! Even though Malik and I are not married (but are working towards it…. lol) I still say when we go out just the two of us that it is our “date night”. I feel like it is very important also, for your sanity from the everyday hustle and bustle. It’s great to get dressed up and just enjoy each other’s company. My favorite part in this post is when you stated it is important for your kids to see you as a couple and not just their parents. On another note I’m just loving this whole website.
Awesome post Ayanna! I totally agree with you! I can’t wait to get married so I can have weekly date nights … as hard as it is, I’m so keen to make them a priority and highlight of my week! 🙂
I’m so happy this resonated with you Sam and it’s awesome that you already have marriage priorities. I wish I would have done that before getting married, that would have definitely helped in the early years of marriage. Marriage definitely takes a lot of work, but it’s all well worth it.
Date nights have become the highlight of my week, too. Be blessed!